Going Deep with Fashion Makeovers

Recently, a dear friend (shout-out to Holly Katz of http://hollykatzstyle.com/) invited me to raise my style game.

Body/weight stuff has been a psychological block for me for 10 years or so. Ultimately, I know in my soul that my body is not some kind of cheap ornament for others (or myself) to critique and deem worthy or unworthy. I know that my body is truly an incredibly capable vehicle allowing me to both experience and express all this love and creativity into the world.

So would losing weight increase my health? Would it improve my vehicle performance, allowing me to do more and create more and be more? Yes, probably. But so far that hasn’t happened. Yet, if I look around at the life I’m creating while in this body what I recognize is that I’m (lovingly) kicking life’s ass.

I’m doing a great human job, not a ‘perfect’ job (cause that’s not based in reality anyway…even skinny, wrinkle-free people have problems, ha). In my present body I’m balancing some major karma, deeply and mindfully supporting others in healing & growth, creating beauty through art, writing and music, and helping to end a cycle of generational trauma in my own family. This physical package I’m showing up in has served me well so far; so it’s time to say “F@#k you” to this obsession with shedding the 20 pounds for a second.


The bottom line is I’ve been downplaying the value of my exterior and the potential role it could play in raising my game in business, in connection to myself and others, in overall self-love for the last ten years because I’ve failed to meet the societal beauty ideal (and, Omigod, what sadist constructed that ideal anyway, right!?). I forget that this body is my vehicle for a life well lived, not just some failed attempt at an arbitrary cultural construct. And, ultimately, I’ve been hiding this truth behind the idea that our exterior presentation is superficial and unimportant to me. 

My grandfather (who worked 50 years in the car wash business) always said, “A clean car is a well-running car;” the idea being that somehow when the outside is cared for, it impacts the whole vehicle, the inside responds. While I heard him say this my whole life, something didn’t connect; I missed the “impeccably put together” gene my grandmother, mother and aunt so readily possess.

Thanks to Holly’s inspiration, I’m starting to get it; it’s time to more fully honor the vehicle I have; time to lovingly shine up the car and see what she can really do. Now, might I go through this “fashion upgrade” process and find additional motivation/inspiration in terms of physical health? Might I go Paleo, learn to mountain bike, hike regularly again or eat 7 -11 servings of fruit and veggies every day? Sure, maybe. But maybe not.

Either way, the body I’m in is already worthy of owning herself as beautiful. It’s already killing it in life which is the whole point. I can raise my game from exactly where I’m standing right now.

This life I’m living is worth it.


3 thoughts on “Going Deep with Fashion Makeovers

  1. I love this post and is something I have been working on with a “friend” right now. I am in a place in my life where I feel I need to start being more aware of my “self-care”. Yes, I am trying to eat better, and make my way to exercising “to shed those lbs”, but more so in presentation of myself. Taking care of my nails, skin, hair and dressing myself to not necessarily what is “in fashion” but what flatters me and the body shape I have today. When my outsides look good, it helps me personally on how I feel on the inside and tend to exude more confidence…specifcally at work. I am finally in a place where I am pretty acceptive of who I am, how much I weigh, my body shape, etc. But looking put together, definitely adds confidence to my day…is that vanity? Perhaps, but it is working for me, so I will keep doing it…at least today =)

  2. I’ve gotten some really valuable feedback from dear friends and it has really called me to grounding myself in balance…It was suggested to me that my post still reflects a negative self-image in the idea that I have “failed” vs. rejected the beauty standards. Also; that there is nothing wrong with how I dress, present myself or groom RIGHT NOW. That decorating (vs. enhancing) my outer appearance might be fun but is not defining, (nor is 20 pounds). Thank you to my many soul sisters.

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